Saying; 'Yes To The Dress'
Alright ladies, this one is for you! Put your hands up if you've ever dreamed about your dream dress prior to getting engaged. I hear you, I see you, well... from a virtual distance that is! Most girls have dreamed about their wedding day at some point in their lives, I personally blame (and thank) Walt Disney for the fairytales we grew up with.
A wedding day is something magical for a lot of women, and their wedding dress is a big part of that! Of course, the reason for getting married isn't so you can play dress up in a big beautiful ball gown. The main focus of your wedding day is the fact that you're celebrating getting married to the love of your life. Full Stop. However, this blog is about the dress, so let's get back to that!
Rewinding back to July 2018, the love of my life proposed to me and I said 'Yes'! When we started our wedding planning process, I was most excited about going dress shopping. I have a feeling many can relate to this. I felt like a princess trying on all those beautiful gowns, mermaid styles, layered dresses, boho and so many more! I went in with an open mindset and was excited to try on different styles of dresses.
After visiting three different stores, I narrowed my choices down to two dresses that were my absolute favourite. One was a strapless ball gown with lace and embroidered sparkles, the dress was off white with the slightest pink hue. The other dress was shape fitting, with a long train made from crepe material and 1920 style buttons running along the back to the end of the train.
I have to admit that the first dress I described is the sort of dress I always thought I would end up with. The second dress, however, really threw me and I never expected to even like it when I tried it on. In my mind, it was almost 'too simple' as it didn't have the lace, glitters or detail I was expecting to love in a wedding dress. To my surprise I couldn't stop thinking about that second dress! When I was wearing it, it made me feel beautiful, elegant and feminine.
Expectations Vs. Reality
In a day and age like this, where we are over exposed to so much inspiration, different opinions and expectations, it can become hard to make a decision. Especially when it comes to something so close to our hearts, the wedding dress. How do you say 'Yes to the dress' when there are so many options, and you have to keep in mind your budget as well?
There is an underlying expectation on brides that they have to find THE dress. The one and only perfect dress. I think it is fair to say that every bride strives to look the most beautiful on their wedding day.
The dress needs to tick all the boxes. ''It needs to fit in my budget. I need to fall in love with it instantly. There needs to be some sort of emotional connection with the dress. All my family and friends need to love it. It needs to impress my future hubby. It needs to be comfortable, flattering, beautiful, sexy, but not inappropriate, feminine, elegant and it needs to be 'me'...''
Wow, those are some big expectations to have for a wedding dress!
Relax, Take a Deep Breath And Keep Reading
Here are five tips to help you make your final decision to say 'YES to the dress'.
1. Bring a trusted friend
Once you have booked your appointment at your chosen bridal showroom, invite your most trusted family and friends. Make sure you don't go overboard, too many opinions can make it harder and overcomplicate things. Bring people you trust and know you can count on for their honest feedback and support.
2. Take photo's During your dress fitting, ask one of your bride tribe people to take photos. So you can look back on them and see the different dresses side by side. You can even show these pictures to loved ones if they were unable to be present at your fittings.
3. Keep an open mind Your expectations of wedding dress shopping might not be your reality. But that's ok! Keep an open mind and even try on the styles of dresses you don't think you will like. What have you go to lose?
4. Put your Pinterest board away!
After you have found your wedding inspiration and have tried on different dresses, it is time to make a decision. STOP COMPARING. Comparison is the thief of joy, so don't let this get in the way of the happiest day of your life.
5. Trust your instincts
If you are struggling to make a decision between dresses, trust your instincts! There comes a time when you have heard the opinions of loved ones, and the final decision is up to you. It's your dress, it's your day, so choose the dress you feel the most beautiful in!
''Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself''
- Coco Chanel
From one bride to another, I hope this will help you to choose your dress.
If you have had a similar experience, I would love to hear about it. Leave a comment down below or send us a personal message, we love hearing bride's stories of their special days and the ones leading up to it!